Imaginary monsters 

​It seems that the brain, in specific situations, literally gets bored and starts scaring you. The easiest way to prove this is to perform the simple experiment of looking steadily into a mirror, for a few minutes at a time. Soon, you’re very likely to see a monster. That monster is a combination of your face and your brain. Does that make it better or worse?

There are a lot of creepy situations that start happening when you look in the mirror. Low light and a fearful mood certainly help, but the primary reason why people have so many mirror related freak-outs, and why it’s become such a big game at slumber parties, is straight biology. The brain doesn’t have the energy or the processing power to notice everything all the time.​

Zaira Khan 

Screen of time 

Facing death means we are able to face the ultimate question of the meaning of life. In order to live we have to have the courage to walk through life realizing that our lives are nothing but a blip on the screen of time. 



Only Death,” Pablo Neruda”

There are cemeteries that are lonely,
graves full of bones that do not make a sound,
the heart moving through a tunnel,
in it darkness, darkness, darkness,
like a shipwreck we die going into ourselves,
as though we were drowning inside our hearts,
as though we lived falling out of the skin into the soul.

And there are corpses,
feet made of cold and sticky clay,
death is inside the bones,
like a barking where there are no dogs,
coming out from bells somewhere, from graves somewhere,
growing in the damp air like tears of rain.

Sometimes I see alone
coffins under sail,
embarking with the pale dead, with women that have dead hair,
with bakers who are as white as angels,
and pensive young girls married to notary publics,
caskets sailing up the vertical river of the dead,
the river of dark purple,
moving upstream with sails filled out by the sound of death,
filled by the sound of death which is silence.

Death arrives among all that sound
like a shoe with no foot in it, like a suit with no man in it,
comes and knocks, using a ring with no stone in it, with no
finger in it,
comes and shouts with no mouth, with no tongue, with no
throat.
Nevertheless its steps can be heard
and its clothing makes a hushed sound, like a tree.

I’m not sure, I understand only a little, I can hardly see,
but it seems to me that its singing has the color of damp violets,
of violets that are at home in the earth,
because the face of death is green,
and the look death gives is green,
with the penetrating dampness of a violet leaf
and the somber color of embittered winter.

But death also goes through the world dressed as a broom,
lapping the floor, looking for dead bodies,
death is inside the broom,
the broom is the tongue of death looking for corpses,
it is the needle of death looking for thread.

Death is inside the folding cots:
it spends its life sleeping on the slow mattresses,
in the black blankets, and suddenly breathes out:
it blows out a mournful sound that swells the sheets,
and the beds go sailing toward a port
where death is waiting, dressed like an admiral.

Zaira Khan 

Way of thinking 

The difference between a confident person and a person who feels inferiority is their way of thinking. while the first tends to praise themselves the second one keeps putting themselves down. The mind of the person who lacks self confidence is usually full of negative messages and that’s why the excess negative ones reach the other people around them in the form of criticism. The conclusion you should have reached is: The overly critical person usually lacks self confidence.

Zaira Khan 

Self satisfaction 

Life is for once, and this era has shown us so much to do and enjoy. But psychologically we all yearn for those things in life which gives tranquility, calmness, terrific feeling of achievement and most of all self satisfaction.

Self satisfaction for one person is defined different from as defined by other. Let’s take things more technically that for some people singing is self satisfaction and for other working in the charity center. So there are no set rules to follow the rules for high self-esteem and great self satisfaction.

As a psychologist I believe that we all are individuals with our individualistic needs.

For me doing my job as a psychologist is the best example for me as myself. Nothing in the world gives a satisfying heart as to be with the ones who need me. Some schizophrenic patients, some bipolar depression ‘s victims, some with emotional, marital, addiction, personality, genius, normal but stressed out etc issues. The list will go on and on but doing good for others is not only the profession it’s the truth present for self satisfaction.

According to Rogers, we should try not to conform to the expectations of others. We should rather come to terms with our own nature, trust one’s own experience, and accept the fact that other people are different. In this way, the gap between the real self and the ideal self will become lesser and a state of congruence will come into place. Once this happens, in terms of Rogers, the person is said to have become oneself. The becoming of one’s self makes the person what Rogers calls a fully functioning person. The fully functioning person, according to Rogers, acknowledges and expresses all his/her feelings, has no rigidity and preconceptions about what he/she should be, make and rely on their own decisions, acknowledges the feeling of freedom and takes responsibility of his/her decisions, and contributes to life. Becoming oneself and being a fully functioning person brings the person closer and closer to self-satisfaction.

A high level of self-awareness is required for self-satisfaction. An individual should have a realization of his/her strengths and weaknesses. This will make the person know about how good or bad he/she is at various things. This will also make the person more focused and will enable him/her to know exactly what he/she wants from life. When a person knows exactly what he/she wants to do, it generates an immense amount of positive feeling within that person and leads to a lot of self-worth.

This high level of self-awareness is very much similar to what Howard Gardner calls intrapersonal intelligence. People who are high on intrapersonal intelligence have a good capacity of being introspective and self-reflective. They are intuitive and skillful in recognizing their own feelings and motivations. It includes having a deep level of understanding, knowing ones strengths and weaknesses, realization of what makes one unique, and having the ability to predict one’s own reactions and emotions.

The only way to maintain a proper composure in life is to seek and eventually achieve self-satisfaction. It is the seeking of self-satisfaction that guides the person through all the turbulence of life. Achieving self-satisfaction should be the main criteria in whatever the person wants to do.

Zaira Khan 

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A perspective 

Setting goals is a key step in accomplishments. However, I  often see clients with lofty goals that may not even be realistic.  Holding ourselves to goals that we cannot reach can damage our  self-esteem and inhibit our interest in trying to reach these goals  again.

When setting your mind to reach a goal, ask yourself “Is this  realistic and can I actually attain this goal?” If the answer is no,  consider breaking the goal down into intermediate steps or modifying it  altogether.
Empower yourself to change what you can, and let go  of the rest. Don’t expend your energy trying to control others. Focus on  yourself,first.There’s a reason why the saying “When life throws you  lemons, make lemonade” has been around for years. When things aren’t  going right, ask yourself “Could things be worse?” or “Is there anything  I can take out of this that can be a benefit to me?”
More often than not, there is a positive aspect to things that  happen, even those that feel negative. Try to view it in a different  light and you may find your attitude turn around. It can  be very difficult to focus on what is directly in front of you and  ensure that you are fully present.
Today’s technology and expectation to be connected or available to  work at all times is one of the most prominent challenges people face  when trying to be present in the “here and now.”
Listen to what your heart and mind tell you about what  you need to do. Learning to reflect on your inner thoughts and feelings  will help you trust putting them into action.
Stop and see what it is that’s keeping you stuck right  now. Oftentimes it’s a blind spot you can’t see, so taking time to null  things over helps you see more clearly. Is it a decision you’re afraid  to make? Are certain people bringing you down? Are you in a cycle of  negative thinking? Or whatsoever,You must be aware.For life improvement, I suggest the reader put life on  pause, for at least a few moments a day, and consider what you’d like to  accomplish today, and the vibe you want to carry.
Years ago, a client of mine was searching for a guidepost or mantra  by which to live his life. After much soul-searching, he decided that,  with every decision he makes, every day, he wanted to write the “better  story.”
The better story might be getting up earlier rather than sleeping in  [or] reaching out to help someone instead of passively ignoring their  need… This turned out to be an enormous gift to me, as I now try to do  this every day surely is a positive activity.
You don’t need an overhaul to improve the quality of your life. Just a  few steps can help to boost your well-being and make your days more  meaningful. And the great part is that you can start today.Zaira Khan 

Gut feeling 

There is no such thing as a purely logical decision. The brain uses a combination of logic and emotion when making decisions of any kind. That specific emotion, innate to us as humans, is intuition. We possess the capacity to feel, and thereby the ability to know things without consciously reasoning. The “gut feeling” is real, and we use it all the time.

Zaira Khan 

You get offended 

When you understand and accept things, you will not get affected, or offended by anything.

You get offended, because you choose to judge. If you removed judgment, and accept instead, you will never get offended. You can either accept or judge. Never both, never nothing, always one or the other…both are a choice.

If you stop judging, you will not get offended. Instead you will accept it.

It’s your choice. You choose to be offended. You choose to accept just as easily.

Zaira Khan