If you want the 2nd half of your life to be better than the 1st half, then you gotta let the first half go.
Do you prefer to ruminate endlessly about the past and something that cannot be changed?
All your feelings are legitimate. It’s important to feel them fully, and then move on. Nursing your grievances indefinitely is a bad habit, because it hurts you more than it hurts any one else .
Things don’t disappear on their own. You need to make the commitment to “let it go.” If you don’t make this conscious choice up-front, you could end up self-sabotaging any effort to move on from this past hurt.
When you focus on the here and now, you have less time to think about the past. When the past memories creep into your consciousness (as they are bound to do from time to time), acknowledge them for a moment. And then bring yourself gently back into the present moment.
Remember, if we crowd our brains — and lives — with hurt feelings, there’s little room for anything positive. It’s a choice you’re making to continue to feel the hurt, rather than welcoming joy back into your life.
Let go of the pain. Do something different today and welcome happiness back into your life.When you accept the past in such a neutral way, you are detached from its drama and the emotional charge associated with it. Your internal position is that of a witness who knows what happened and recognizes the event for what it was.
We might dwell on past hurts to the point that it negatively affects our emotional health, preventing us from moving on and growing as we should.
Each event in life leaves the impact, now its on us that how we deal with it and move on. The choice is ours. Regardless of what happened before, the person bringing up the past is feeling something similar in now. Isn’t it?
Not shy away … not to pass the crossed roads. For many individuals, the past is not past but remains an ever-present influence in their present life and in concealed ways make them feel horrible. I deal with them daily as a practicIng psychologist.
If past events are processed as experiences to learn from and grow as a person, pain and upset can be transformed into greater wisdom and strength. However, if not resolved, past challenges keep us hooked into the emotional charge of the time.
The only way to resolve painful feelings is to feel and acknowledge them, understand their context and accept them as a wound that may leave scars but does not need to hold you in its grip.
We all need supporting people with us. Many people deal well with talking therapies, some in same type groups.. by connecting with others who have overcome similar experiences. Be quite clear about the distinction between condoning and accepting.
When you condone something, you give it your seal of approval. An attitude of acceptance does not include judging past events as okay or insignificant. It simply acknowledges what happened in a matter-of-fact way without being pulled into one of the counter-productive emotions ..
Most likely you will never forget the experience but emotionally you have made peace with it and are no longer held in its power.