You are the only one who can save yourself. You can have the whole backing of the universe and others can show you the way, support you and hold your hand, but ultimately, only you can save yourself.
Not to diminish the intensity of your experience or to say that it does not contain embedded pain – but to be clear – your metaphoric and literal freedom from the experience and the pain lies in being able to see beyond its manifestation to the heart of the issue. No matter how imperfect you feel, the truth is that you ARE complete and whole just as you are. Self-validation and self-love are what will enable you to heal and release the pain that has gotten stimulated for you through this interaction, and cement your experience of the ‘completeness’ you seek.