Life isn’t always fair… life is a beautiful chance given to human beings to make the best of it, to LEARN and to provide others the best of us. What can be unfair is the attitude and actions of human beings, but we learn from that. If we get hurt by something or someone, there is always a lesson to get from it: To be stronger, to realize of the good and bad, to take care of ourselves. The power is always within you , you have all the strength and the capability to face any difficulty you may be experiencing, with braveness and positivity, looking forward! You were born to be happy :), you have unique talents, values, to provide happiness to others. Loosing hopes is not the solution to difficulties (no matter how desperate the situation might seem); it is a “coward” response and a very selfish one, as it could cause so much pain to the people who love you. Be positive, look forward. Whether it’s self-preservation, basic human decency, or a combination of both, we want to change that.
In some cases, we can. We are not powerless, and we don’t have to simply accept every injustice as an unavoidable part of life.
We do, however, need to accept that our response to perceived wrongs affects our ability to right them.
No one has a perfect life. Everyone is battling some kind of hardship.
It’s also downright disturbing when people who really do have good lives, overlook all the positives they do have going for them because they are so focused on what they haven’t got, or what others have, that they don’t.
You can’t create positive change from a negative mindset. You have to heal your pain before you can set out to heal the world. And you have to stop seeing yourself as a victim if you want to access your personal power.
Studies have shown that the reward centers of our brains activate when we recognize fairness—even when it pertains to someone else. When we witness unfairness, it triggers our amygdala, the primitive part of the brain that controls fear and anger.
You also have to come to terms with the reality that even if you do what you’re supposed to/ need to do, it still doesn’t always follow that you’re gonna get what you want. Life doesn’t always work that way…it’s not a meritocracy. People let their disappointment in how things turn out get the better of them, often, instead of accepting it as something that just happens, sometimes, despite best intentions. Accepting failure and disappointment healthily is one of the hardest lessons to learn. I still struggle with it, and hopefully will get better and better about it as life goes on.
This means that when we feel like we’ve been treated unfairly, we go into “fight or flight” mode, with its resulting sense of anxiety.
Psychologists suggest that when we fight for fairness for others, it’s actually self-interest in disguise; meaning we’ve recognized it provides us with some type of advantage to be fair.
No matter how you slice it, we experience a strong, instant physical and biological reaction to perceived injustices, and this can limit our ability to think rationally and respond proactively.
A little bit of unjustice in this life and enduring it can only make you stronger; there’s always an island of love, happiness and joy ahead even if you’ve got to swim a whole ocean of bitterness and injustice in order to get there!
“Life will always be unfair”; and that’s how this life will be if all you do is keep swimming in circles in the ocean of mainstream human mentality; it’s up to you to seek in your life those ‘islands of tranquility’ which fill your emotion with confidence and strength; and those islands are often in the truthful companionship of good friends and loved ones. Growing older will lead you there, just be careful and don’t give up!
Make a clean corner in your thoughts so that hope finds a place in your heart and let instead bitterness move out.
Once we mature as individuals it’s up to us to make life better, for our own and for the future generations as well! Don’t give up!