There are certain boundaries in the relationship of a therapist and client. Therapist is bound to keep confidentiality and best rapport. And of course therapist cannot use the things she knows about the client to manipulate or get involved in love relationship. The client always must have the idea that he is going to therapist for some fix its. And the therapeutic procedure has no restrictions in number of occurrences. But therapists have a personal and professional responsibility to maintain with high levels of self-awareness. They must take precautions to ensure that their issues are not getting in the way of helping their clients, and that they are not letting their clients’ issues prevent them from living their own lives. Weekly therapy sessions can create the time, space, and support for therapists to do just that. A therapist is there for correct the odds once they come out or deal with situations as they arise instead of feeling the need to be ready to deal with love life of a client.
Mark my words it’s a highly responsible respectful and caring reality based relationship. A therapist gets the license with certain training and skills. And it is of course not in the code of morality to have anykind of relationship after the cessation of sessions as well. Many clients fantasize the therapeutic sessions as ideal love relationship outcomes but in reality it’s not encouraged and should not be in this way.
Well in sessions I usually tell the clients involved with any therapist before that however, the vast majority of people who come to therapy do so with the intent of getting help with something specific. Whether it is something as broad as wanting to feel better or something as narrow as making a decision about a career move, people usually bring a specific goal to therapy. For some, these goals can be achieved in a few short months, while for others, it can take years. But ultimately there is a resolution and they feel ready to end therapy. The question then is how to do it.
One of the things people find most useful about therapy is that there is nothing you can’t talk about in a session—including your relationship with your therapist. In fact, a growing body of research indicates that much of the positive change produced by therapy comes as a result of the therapeutic relationship. For example, if your relationships improved while you were in therapy, it is likely, in part, because you learned new ways of being in relationships by actively participating in your therapeutic relationship. So take the well-honed skill set that you developed in therapy and open a discussion with your therapist about ending the therapeutic relationship.
This will likely come as no surprise to your therapist. He or she knows what you came in to work on and knows that you have achieved your goal. Plus, this is a natural part of the process—all therapists in training learn about how to help clients work through this final stage, called termination. This is a prime opportunity to review the goals that brought you to therapy and to reflect on the growth that allowed you to accomplish them. Part of termination involves reinforcing the coping skills that evolve during therapy and reminding clients to continue to draw upon them in the future. Another important part of this process is to identify indicators that may signal the need to return to therapy in the future.Finally, working through the process of termination with your therapist will allow you the opportunity to process the ending of a powerful and unique relationship. While this is a deeply genuine relationship, it is also one that exists within strictly prescribed boundaries—within the therapist’s office during appointment times. Of course, there may have been phone calls and additional meetings scheduled during times of crisis, but there isn’t a healthy way to continue the relationship you have formed with your therapist outside of therapy.
When Sigmund Freud wrote, “Psychoanalysis is, in essence, a cure through love” he didn’t mean therapists should have hot and heavy affairs with their patients (though many of his colleagues did, causing him to issue strict rules regarding professional boundaries). What Freud implied was, due to it’s enormous healing powers, love plays a central role in therapist/patient alliance and its bound or restricted to sessions only.
For example, many people report conflicts in their relationships with their parents. In essence, these conflicts originate from a lack of loving acceptance from their parents. These primitive, unsatisfying experiences leave people feeling incomplete. Such gaps in loving acceptance can remain with them throughout their lives, resulting in problematic relationships and difficulties with intimacy. So therapists are apt to address these shortcomings or problems,instead of providing the chance or hints to lrt clients fantasize about fantastic love relationship with the therapist.
People who grew up feeling unloved struggle mightily with giving or accepting love. They also find it difficult to love themselves.
In such cases, the love and understanding they receive from their therapist can fulfill those unmet needs. Such loving acceptance also translates into feelings of being understood, valued and cared for; feelings they yearned for but were denied.
Therapists are bombarded with all kinds of feelings, such as hate, yearning, anger or despair. Learning to manage such dynamic and often erratic emotions is essential. But before therapists can help their patients, they have to help themselves.
Experienced therapists spend years in their own therapy, two or three times a week, in addition to group therapy, supervision and post-masters training programs. They are taught to scrutinize their personal history, analyze and dissect life events, and pour over the intricacies of their own relationships. In the process, they become skilled at experiencing, investigating, and analyzing their own feelings, and enhancing their sensitivity.
We therapists always have to reflect on our personal experience of love and acceptance.
Ongoing personal analysis is essential for therapists. It’s impossible to be an effective therapist without stepping into the patient role. An unceasing commitment to personal growth and self-understanding provides therapists with the ability to provide the authentic, curative and nurturing relationships so many people need to be healed.
Psychotherapy is entirely a professional process and even after termination of sessions both the therapist and client cannot have a love relationship as it shows unethical and immoral roles of conduct from both sides.