Tag: emotions

Self love or selfishness 

Sometimes when people hear the word “self-love” they associate it with the word “selfish,” but I’m here today to tell you that self-love is not selfish. Self-love is empowering and inspiring. It’s something we should all do every single day. Loving yourself doesn’t — and shouldn’t — take away from loving others, as being selfish does. Self-love allows you to embrace who you are and, as a result, be come better at loving not only yourself but others.

While self-love can be defined as an excess in self-pride, I prefer to think of it in terms of a feeling of self-respect and self-worth. I believe the more you respect yourself, the more you respect the world around you and the more likely you’ll be to live a positive life, therefore projecting positivity into the world. Of course, there will always be those that argue that self-love is narcissistic and that loving oneself too much is just plain selfish. 

Having respect for yourself leads you to have respect for others. Ever wonder why some people are so mean and judgmental? More often than not it’s because they don’t love themselves and are taking out the way they feel about themselves on others. If you want to live selflessly, loving yourself first is a great place to start because the more you learn to respect and love yourself, the more you will love and respect others, which, ultimately, makes the world a much better place.

Celebrating positive things about you supports a positive attitude about others. The more you value yourself and celebrate the good things about yourself, the more you will want to celebrate the goodness in others. When you are constantly looking down on yourself or focusing on the negative, it can be really difficult to find the positive in the world and in those around you. If you bring yourself up, you’ll be much happier — and more likely to bring others up as well.

Taking care of your happiness first leaves your heart open to caring for others. Putting yourself first might seem like the absolute wrong way to care about other people, but it’s the best step you can take to making sure those around you are at their happiest. Once your happiness is taken care of and you really learn to love yourself, you free up your emotional time and energy to love others and focus on them. Dwelling on self-doubt and self-hate significantly takes away from others so loving yourself is essential if you want to have the energy to care for other people in your life.

Believing in your own abilities allows you to pursue passions that can inspire others. Once you truly start believing in yourself and focusing on your positive qualities, you’ll be able to pursue your passions and spend time doing what you love. When you allow yourself to be who you are and follow your heart, you will be able to share your passion with the world. The more you believe in yourself, the more you will open up and share with others — and what you share just might be the very inspiration someone else needs.  

 Loving yourself makes you a happier, kinder, more positive person. The basic truth is this: if you love yourself, you be happier. When you are happier, you will be nicer and kinder and more open to others. You’ll be more loving and more willing to trust, enjoy, and celebrate other people. You’ll look for the good in yourself and in others and, as a result, you’ll have a better relationship with yourself and with the ones you love.
 
Though some might disagree, I firmly believe that loving yourself is an unselfish act because it leads to a more positive life for you — and the more positive your life is, the more positive you’ll be about the things and people around you. It’s easy to find excuses when it comes to doing something good for yourself. You can think of plenty of reasons why you should be doing something for someone else instead. But don’t let that little nagging voice in your head tell you that self-love isn’t worth it or its unobtainable. It’s possible for every single person to love him/herself, but it’s up to the individual to make it happen. If you aren’t already loving yourself and you have any doubts in your mind as to whether or not loving yourself is selfish, I hope this article has helped you realize that self-love is, in fact, an unselfish act.

Zaira Khan 

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Core beliefs 

Negativity affects your thoughts, how you see the world. Nothing is ever good, nothing will ever be good. The world is going to Hell in a hand basket. The thing is it doesn’t just affect you, it affects everyone around you. People stop paying attention, and start avoiding you, because negativity wears on everyone around you.

“Positive and negative emotions cannot occupy the mind at the same time. One or the other must dominate. It is your responsibility to make sure that positive emotions constitute the dominating influence of your mind.” — Napoleon Hill
If someone is diagnosed with any disorder, then same strategies more or less cannot be applied.. There is a great difference between clinical depression and depression.. your situational autopsy can get you into high gear fast if you are willing to examine and confront your own self related core beliefs. Which are sometimes totally irrational. Such beliefs can reside in our heads for so long that they may have become facts to us. Well, irrational beliefs, as we say are those that are actually inflexible, illogical and inconsistent with actual reality. As a psychologist I know that they tend to interfere with your psychological well being and get in the way of you pursuing meaningful goals. When your world feels like its falling apart, you are going to believe the bad ones more. So as a positive thinker you must challenge such myths rather than accept them as FACTS. you can  always check your positivity by checking self on reality check substances.. Like I don’t deserve a second chance to change my life for the better. No one would love me if I did all that only  I wanted. I am not quite confident about self to try something new with my life….

My point is positive thinkers promote productivity and creativity they support positive relationships. They have the ability for acceptance and tolerance. They know how to strengthen persistence and self discipline.. etc..

Patients have to use medicine and obviously cognitive behavioral therapies  and some strategies focusing on  on here and now, only then  they can someway get to the point of setting a forward looking goals. And with priorities straight way..

Zaira Khan

Feeling OK 

We might feel that emotional regulation is about feeling okay. However, it is reasonable to assume that “feeling okay” is just the reward we get for listening to our emotions. My assumption is that emotions are there to motivate you to do the right thing. For instance, fear makes you run away from threats, love encourages you to invest in a (hopefully) beneficial relationship, and anger fuels your desire to protect your rights. From this perspective, emotions are the instant priority list of survival. Of course they can be far from flawless, but they most often encourage us to move in the right direction before we even realize that there is any such thing as a right direction.

Zairakhan

PC. Zairakhan 

Gut feeling 

There is no such thing as a purely logical decision. The brain uses a combination of logic and emotion when making decisions of any kind. That specific emotion, innate to us as humans, is intuition. We possess the capacity to feel, and thereby the ability to know things without consciously reasoning. The “gut feeling” is real, and we use it all the time.

Zaira Khan 

Express yourself 


When we deny our feelings, we are denying the truth. What kind of life are we living if we are not living truthfully?

Allowing ourselves to feel our full range of emotions is not only liberating and necessary, but it also helps cleanse us of negativity which we may be subconsciously holding on to.

Many of us are conditioned to see emotions as “good” and “bad.” To regard the complexity of emotions as either black or white belies the learning opportunities which are embedded and disguised in experiencing them.

For example, jealousy could be regarded as a “bad” emotion, however if we open our minds and hearts, we could also see that this emotion is our own personal doorway to learning more about fear, trust, and connection.

When someone hurts us, intentionally or accidentally, we have a responsibility to ourselves to express our pain.

This needn’t be self indulgent or pitiful, but an understanding that it is our right to express that pain in an effective, healthy manner which helps us to let go and move forward.

The next time you experience a strong emotion such as fear, hurt, disappointment, anger, fury, or panic, try using this simple statement..

“Right now I feel (….?…. EMOTION). I give myself permission to feel (….?…. EMOTION) because I have a right to express myself and my emotions.”

When we stop trying to control our feelings, and start embracing the colorful way in which our hearts communicate with us, life begins to teach us our most important lessons.

zaira khan

Price of happiness.. 


Being emotionally and mentally healthy are huge plus. People with good emotional health: Believe that there is a good balance to their life between leisure time, activity, and work. Feel good about themselves, and don’t suffer from self-esteem issues. Believe that there is a purpose to their lives. Are able to accept changes better and just go with the flow. Enjoy living, and know the value of fun and laughter. Have less stress, and are better equipped to deal with stress. Have better relationships with others.  Are contented with their lives.. The ability to enjoy well being and mental health give you the happiness without any price tag. So we all can pay as much as we can.

Zaira Khan