Tag: feeling

Realizations

Some of the realizations..
1. Take time to make your forgiveness real and meaningful.
Did you every hear people say, “You have to forgive her!” or “Forgive him right now!”? Well, anyone can just say they forgive someone, but it takes time to actually move forward and truly forgive. Don’t let a person force you into forgiving someone before you’ve worked through your feelings, because it would lead to an empty forgiveness and not something that is true.
2. Meditate.
This is extremely important because it is so easy to get caught up in emotions when there is so much extra chatter or other influences. When you meditate, you are at one with your emotions in a quiet atmosphere. During meditation, I learn more about my needs and myself, and it constantly helps me grow as a person.
3. Write down your emotions and then release them.
Sometimes it’s hard to realize what upsets you. Is it because she said this? Or because her actions made you feel bad? Writing down your thoughts help you better understand your feelings. After I do this, I like to go outside and burn the paper. It feels therapeutic to watch something that hurt you disintegrate into little ashes.
4. Instead of focusing on how someone else hurt you, focus on how your actions affect others.
Whenever I deal with these issues, I am not an easy person to be around… I spent too much time focusing on someone and something that I could do nothing about instead of focusing on the good and peaceful relationships in my life. When I realized how I was treating my loved ones, it made me want to forgive the person who hurts me. I deserved that peace, and so did my friends and family.
5. Strive to live in the present.
This is the hardest thing to do. Especially now with the Internet and a fast-paced life, so many of us are multi-tasking, thinking of our next assignment before we finish with the one we are currently doing. By always thinking of tomorrow, we are losing today. The same goes for living in the past. If you let your past define you, you will never grow.
Through all the pain and the heartaches u go through years of your life, u can finally feel at peace….so… I think the best thing I ever did was forgive my rivals and so called enemies because it let me grow as a person and focus on all the wonderful people and things in my life..

zairakhan

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Unity 

Thank you unity for being there every time we fall.

Unity, you are the reason for all of us to remember each other and remain friends in togetherness.. 

We all want unity,

without any differences

for once so

there be no strings attacked

lets act 

like we stand firmly in our affiliation and

face our challenges 

and take the steps for our actions.

Lets be united

and go collectively. 

I need you,

We all need unity

for our independence

faithfully and peacefully. 

Zaira Khan

Feeling OK 

We might feel that emotional regulation is about feeling okay. However, it is reasonable to assume that “feeling okay” is just the reward we get for listening to our emotions. My assumption is that emotions are there to motivate you to do the right thing. For instance, fear makes you run away from threats, love encourages you to invest in a (hopefully) beneficial relationship, and anger fuels your desire to protect your rights. From this perspective, emotions are the instant priority list of survival. Of course they can be far from flawless, but they most often encourage us to move in the right direction before we even realize that there is any such thing as a right direction.

Zairakhan

PC. Zairakhan 

Keep trying 

Life isn’t always fair… life is a beautiful chance given to human  beings to make the best of it, to LEARN and to provide others the best  of us. What can be unfair is the attitude and actions of human beings, but we learn from that. If we get hurt by something or someone, there is  always a lesson to get from it: To be stronger, to realize of the good  and bad, to take care of ourselves. The power is always within you , you  have all the strength and the capability to face any difficulty you may  be experiencing, with braveness and positivity, looking forward! You  were born to be happy :), you have unique talents, values, to provide  happiness to others. Loosing hopes is not the solution to difficulties  (no matter how desperate the situation might seem); it is a “coward”  response and a very selfish one, as it could cause so much pain to the  people who love you. Be positive, look forward. Whether it’s  self-preservation, basic human decency, or a combination of both, we  want to change that.

In some cases, we can. We are not powerless, and we don’t have to simply accept every injustice as an unavoidable part of life.
We do, however, need to accept that our response to perceived wrongs affects our ability to right them.
No one has a perfect life. Everyone is battling some kind of hardship.
It’s  also downright disturbing when people who really do have good lives,  overlook all the positives they do have going for them because they are  so focused on what they haven’t got, or what others have, that they  don’t. 
You can’t create positive change from a negative  mindset.  You have to heal your pain before you can set out to heal the  world. And you have to stop seeing yourself as a victim if you want to  access your personal power.
Studies have shown that the reward  centers of our brains activate when we recognize fairness—even when it  pertains to someone else. When we witness unfairness, it triggers our  amygdala, the primitive part of the brain that controls fear and anger.
You  also have to come to terms with the reality that even if you do what  you’re supposed to/ need to do, it still doesn’t always follow that  you’re gonna get what you want. Life doesn’t always work that way…it’s  not a meritocracy. People let their disappointment in how things turn  out get the better of them, often, instead of accepting it as something  that just happens, sometimes, despite best intentions. Accepting failure  and disappointment healthily is one of the hardest lessons to learn. I  still struggle with it, and hopefully will get better and better about  it as life goes on. 
This means that when we feel like we’ve been  treated unfairly, we go into “fight or flight” mode, with its resulting  sense of anxiety.
Psychologists suggest that when we fight for  fairness for others, it’s actually self-interest in disguise; meaning  we’ve recognized it provides us with some type of advantage to be fair.
No  matter how you slice it, we experience a strong, instant physical and  biological reaction to perceived injustices, and this can limit our  ability to think rationally and respond proactively. 
A little bit of unjustice in this life and enduring it can only make you  stronger; there’s always an island of love, happiness and joy ahead  even if you’ve got to swim a whole ocean of bitterness and injustice in  order to get there!
 “Life will always be unfair”; and that’s how this life will be if all  you do is keep swimming in circles in the ocean of mainstream human  mentality; it’s up to you to seek in your life those ‘islands of  tranquility’ which fill your emotion with confidence and strength; and  those islands are often in the truthful companionship of good friends and loved ones.  Growing older will lead you there, just be careful and don’t give up!
Make a clean corner in your thoughts so that hope finds a place in your heart and let instead bitterness move out.
Once  we mature as individuals it’s up to us to make life better, for our own  and for the future generations as well! Don’t give up!

Zaira khan 

Intuition 


Think of intuition as an unconscious associative process. Long dismissed as magical or beneath the dignity of science, intuition turns out to muster some fancy and fast mental operations. The best explanation psychologists now offer is that intuition is a mental matching game. The brain takes in a situation, does a very quick search of its files, and then finds its best analogue among the stored sprawl of memories and knowledge. Based on that analogy, you ascribe meaning to the situation in front of you.

Zaira Khan 

Screen of time 

Facing death means we are able to face the ultimate question of the meaning of life. In order to live we have to have the courage to walk through life realizing that our lives are nothing but a blip on the screen of time. 



Only Death,” Pablo Neruda”

There are cemeteries that are lonely,
graves full of bones that do not make a sound,
the heart moving through a tunnel,
in it darkness, darkness, darkness,
like a shipwreck we die going into ourselves,
as though we were drowning inside our hearts,
as though we lived falling out of the skin into the soul.

And there are corpses,
feet made of cold and sticky clay,
death is inside the bones,
like a barking where there are no dogs,
coming out from bells somewhere, from graves somewhere,
growing in the damp air like tears of rain.

Sometimes I see alone
coffins under sail,
embarking with the pale dead, with women that have dead hair,
with bakers who are as white as angels,
and pensive young girls married to notary publics,
caskets sailing up the vertical river of the dead,
the river of dark purple,
moving upstream with sails filled out by the sound of death,
filled by the sound of death which is silence.

Death arrives among all that sound
like a shoe with no foot in it, like a suit with no man in it,
comes and knocks, using a ring with no stone in it, with no
finger in it,
comes and shouts with no mouth, with no tongue, with no
throat.
Nevertheless its steps can be heard
and its clothing makes a hushed sound, like a tree.

I’m not sure, I understand only a little, I can hardly see,
but it seems to me that its singing has the color of damp violets,
of violets that are at home in the earth,
because the face of death is green,
and the look death gives is green,
with the penetrating dampness of a violet leaf
and the somber color of embittered winter.

But death also goes through the world dressed as a broom,
lapping the floor, looking for dead bodies,
death is inside the broom,
the broom is the tongue of death looking for corpses,
it is the needle of death looking for thread.

Death is inside the folding cots:
it spends its life sleeping on the slow mattresses,
in the black blankets, and suddenly breathes out:
it blows out a mournful sound that swells the sheets,
and the beds go sailing toward a port
where death is waiting, dressed like an admiral.

Zaira Khan 

Gut feeling 

There is no such thing as a purely logical decision. The brain uses a combination of logic and emotion when making decisions of any kind. That specific emotion, innate to us as humans, is intuition. We possess the capacity to feel, and thereby the ability to know things without consciously reasoning. The “gut feeling” is real, and we use it all the time.

Zaira Khan