You can still love somebody you don’t trust as you have your own approach in life,BUT it will probably make you examine even trustworthy actions as suspect.(if you are not with some other kind of psychological problems that are based on emotional problems). I think this makes it difficult for both people in a relationship –one suspicious sad/angry person and one who feels wrongly accused.
Everyone makes mistakes (that is the easy part!) the harder part is telling the truth and dealing with it, but when people do this,they get exhausted and take their hands off normally and usually…But even if they continue the relationship then..this is deep shallowness in their own personality. For me its emotional SI..means emotional self injury.The wounds are sometimes very deep.Self esteem totally shatters..and cos you cant take yourself out of that kind of self harm mental situation, you carry on..and falsely tell yourself as a belief that you love the person..but deeply inside you don’t..you just dont want to loose the one you got somehow,thats the only thing that makes you anxious and insecure…
Trust is the foundation of a relationship. The same as faith, hope and belief. Without these, what type of a relationship does one have? They can have faith, hope and believe things will get better by gaining the trust they once had. Trust may take a long time to build but is not impossible, depending on what caused the mistrust. However, if the reliance isn’t earned, the one not able to trust is left with a mind in a cage of doubt and the one not being trusted finds oneself constantly on guard. The longer in the relationship of trust-less issues, the more the poison spreads.
Why would anyone in his/her logical mind want to have a relationship with someone he/she does not trust? That premise is totally illogical for rational beings. The basis of a respectful and loving relationship is trust. When a relationship is based upon trust, there is a comfort within that relationship. There is a freedom for people to be their unique selves and their most vulnerable selves. the person knows all that but fixes self into denial,unconsciously he is too logic tight that his illogical thinking seems correct to him..so he wont listen and follow any other neutral person..If there is no awareness regarding your mind and its states,how anyone can protect self…
When a relationship is based and built upon trust, each person has each other’s back. If a relationship is not based upon trust, the relationship is and will become problematic in more ways than one. If one cannot trust a person in a relationship, what GOOD is the relationship. If one elects to remain in such a toxic relationship, sooner or later he/she will be proverbially stabbed in the back and he knows that but..he actually waits for that to happen.. In other words, the more trusting partner will be left holding the bag so to speak.
So,to sum up I would say,”Trust forms the very core of a strong relationship. Without trust, it’s questionable how far a relationship would go. I really don’t think it’s worth it unless trust is reestablished. Sometimes the heart wants to believe and wants to make it work, even when you have that underlying feeling that it’s probably not worth it. The best someone can hope for is to give the relationship a couple of chances and if still there is no trust forming, then probably let it go for good.” If there is no trust, a relationship will not thrive. So actually we cant love fully the person we don’t trust..this is our misunderstanding if we think that we still love the untrusted people as before,mistrusting occurred.