Tag: psychology

Like a shadow 

Depression is like the shadow that haunts us all secretly at some or the other period of time in our lives. It can become much like a vicious cycle if not attended to. There are a few things you could try 

Get yourself a change of place. Shift to a new room/home with more ventilation or a terrace or open balcony. Open air spaces are known to act like ventilator for the mind as much as the body by providing fresh air to breathe. The air we breathe is so important  yet so neglected. It’s really really important  to breathe fresh air. It’s cleansing for the body, as much as the mind.

Get yourself a small plant inside your room. Try placing it near your window. Tend to it every day and take care of by watering regularly. Green plants inside the home are known to be reflectors of positive energy.

Brighten your room. I won’t ask you to paint it afresh but bring in brighter bulbs into your room, an extra lamp would do great, too. Make sure you get ample sunlight inside your room during the day. Bright light would surely lessen the darkening thoughts in your head, too.

The best of all, get yourself a pet(if you can’t afford or manage an expensive pet , get fishes in a large bowl with lots of water for the fishes to swim around). Pets are said to elevate moods and #psychologists have found that homes with pets have lesser cases of depression-suffering members. If you can’t afford either, spend time or give food to the stray ones outside your home. Befriend them. That oughtta do the trick, too!

Snack on fruits. We often neglect the controllable factors to our health(physique and psyche). Fresh foods have high amounts of anti oxidants and fibre. They help in release of happy-hormones endorphins in your body giving you a full-feeling without a hint of sickness!

You could start working out/yoga. The world is celebrating the greatness of Yoga which benefits every single thought to every last cell in your being. I’ve personally benefitted a lot from yoga and that’s why I endorse it so much.

I won’t suggest you to push yourself too hard for anything but just remember this, medication and doctor…all on one side… You are the one and only bridge between them and a better and happier you! Take care.

zairakhan

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Still want to crawl under a rock

 I still remember that when I was making myself a practicing psychologist, I was taking up or lets say was ready to take up many challenges to become well known in my profession,as there were tough competitions..Which I am now…. Some years back I had a seminar to present and that was for the psychology students,who were doing masters in clinical psychology and that was a great breakthrough as I was getting chance to address in one of the best institutes of Clinical Psychology. I was fully prepared with my laptop and presentation on endogenous and exogenous factors of migraine in female patients. As I entered the hall took up the dice and mic, started giving brief bio-data of my professional background and major interests of studies. And all of a sudden a young man of armed forces who was studying clinical psychology stood up and asked ARE YOU MARRIED? I without looking at him said I ABSOLUTELY DON’T KNOW?

I still remember I was so embarrassed with my answer that I had to take some deep breaths to focus on the work I was bound to do. but the students clapped for like five minutes. I don’t know why? But I wasn’t married and I could have said so with simple word NO.

Believe me in recalling this first seminar which was appreciated a lot I feel great success but I truly still want to crawl under a rock,that my answer to that invalid and unexpected question was totally nonsense.lol

Well to sum up I want to share this wonderful quotation.

 

We live in a mind

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As we move through life, acting and interacting with our environment, various memories are brought to consciousness as a result of sense stimulation – causing us to think, speak and act according to the contents of these memories. We live in a mind, which has been conditioned by the educational system, our beliefs,culture,society, propaganda, friends, family members, and the list expands according to our life’s experiences. While we think and feel like we are in control of our lives, for the most part we operate on automatic based on the contents of our subconscious being shuffled back and forth into the conscious mind by sense stimulation. However, once we begin to practice the experiments of proof, and experience the theory first-hand for ourselves, then the contents become rearranged differently and a clearer or new understanding is revealed.
The contents of the subconscious, combing with the contents of the conscious mind, which “cause” the “effects” we experience in life. Change or rearrange the contents of the subconscious and we perceive and experience life differently. Having the knowledge of what the mind is and how it operates leads to self-reflection..GO TOWARDS SELF REFLECTION IF YOU HAVE ANY CHOICE.

Zaira khan

Giving up? 

 

Shutting yourself away doesn’t really improve the situation. At best, you will remain in stasis, and not get worse, but not get better. The best strategy I found is to strengthen your physical self. Treat your body as a container for your mental and emotional/spiritual self. If the container is stronger, your mental side will be better able to function as well. So to start – eat clean (no junk food, protein at every meal, and lots of green veg), sleep a full 8 -10 hours/night, and exercise 30 minutes/day. If you can do this, you will be significantly less depressed. Then on the mental side – find a hobby that you can develop yourself more with. It doesn’t have to be anything in particular other than you have a sincere interest in it. Find a group class that you can join, and that will start you in the #social direction. If you become more confident socially, you might be able to find some self satisfaction . If not, then at least you will have more friends, and possibly they might know someone and of course that’s you

Start from now and here you are important don’t de evaluate and exhaust yourself … good luck.

zairakhan

Self love or selfishness 

Sometimes when people hear the word “self-love” they associate it with the word “selfish,” but I’m here today to tell you that self-love is not selfish. Self-love is empowering and inspiring. It’s something we should all do every single day. Loving yourself doesn’t — and shouldn’t — take away from loving others, as being selfish does. Self-love allows you to embrace who you are and, as a result, be come better at loving not only yourself but others.

While self-love can be defined as an excess in self-pride, I prefer to think of it in terms of a feeling of self-respect and self-worth. I believe the more you respect yourself, the more you respect the world around you and the more likely you’ll be to live a positive life, therefore projecting positivity into the world. Of course, there will always be those that argue that self-love is narcissistic and that loving oneself too much is just plain selfish. 

Having respect for yourself leads you to have respect for others. Ever wonder why some people are so mean and judgmental? More often than not it’s because they don’t love themselves and are taking out the way they feel about themselves on others. If you want to live selflessly, loving yourself first is a great place to start because the more you learn to respect and love yourself, the more you will love and respect others, which, ultimately, makes the world a much better place.

Celebrating positive things about you supports a positive attitude about others. The more you value yourself and celebrate the good things about yourself, the more you will want to celebrate the goodness in others. When you are constantly looking down on yourself or focusing on the negative, it can be really difficult to find the positive in the world and in those around you. If you bring yourself up, you’ll be much happier — and more likely to bring others up as well.

Taking care of your happiness first leaves your heart open to caring for others. Putting yourself first might seem like the absolute wrong way to care about other people, but it’s the best step you can take to making sure those around you are at their happiest. Once your happiness is taken care of and you really learn to love yourself, you free up your emotional time and energy to love others and focus on them. Dwelling on self-doubt and self-hate significantly takes away from others so loving yourself is essential if you want to have the energy to care for other people in your life.

Believing in your own abilities allows you to pursue passions that can inspire others. Once you truly start believing in yourself and focusing on your positive qualities, you’ll be able to pursue your passions and spend time doing what you love. When you allow yourself to be who you are and follow your heart, you will be able to share your passion with the world. The more you believe in yourself, the more you will open up and share with others — and what you share just might be the very inspiration someone else needs.  

 Loving yourself makes you a happier, kinder, more positive person. The basic truth is this: if you love yourself, you be happier. When you are happier, you will be nicer and kinder and more open to others. You’ll be more loving and more willing to trust, enjoy, and celebrate other people. You’ll look for the good in yourself and in others and, as a result, you’ll have a better relationship with yourself and with the ones you love.
 
Though some might disagree, I firmly believe that loving yourself is an unselfish act because it leads to a more positive life for you — and the more positive your life is, the more positive you’ll be about the things and people around you. It’s easy to find excuses when it comes to doing something good for yourself. You can think of plenty of reasons why you should be doing something for someone else instead. But don’t let that little nagging voice in your head tell you that self-love isn’t worth it or its unobtainable. It’s possible for every single person to love him/herself, but it’s up to the individual to make it happen. If you aren’t already loving yourself and you have any doubts in your mind as to whether or not loving yourself is selfish, I hope this article has helped you realize that self-love is, in fact, an unselfish act.

Zaira Khan 

Core beliefs 

Negativity affects your thoughts, how you see the world. Nothing is ever good, nothing will ever be good. The world is going to Hell in a hand basket. The thing is it doesn’t just affect you, it affects everyone around you. People stop paying attention, and start avoiding you, because negativity wears on everyone around you.

“Positive and negative emotions cannot occupy the mind at the same time. One or the other must dominate. It is your responsibility to make sure that positive emotions constitute the dominating influence of your mind.” — Napoleon Hill
If someone is diagnosed with any disorder, then same strategies more or less cannot be applied.. There is a great difference between clinical depression and depression.. your situational autopsy can get you into high gear fast if you are willing to examine and confront your own self related core beliefs. Which are sometimes totally irrational. Such beliefs can reside in our heads for so long that they may have become facts to us. Well, irrational beliefs, as we say are those that are actually inflexible, illogical and inconsistent with actual reality. As a psychologist I know that they tend to interfere with your psychological well being and get in the way of you pursuing meaningful goals. When your world feels like its falling apart, you are going to believe the bad ones more. So as a positive thinker you must challenge such myths rather than accept them as FACTS. you can  always check your positivity by checking self on reality check substances.. Like I don’t deserve a second chance to change my life for the better. No one would love me if I did all that only  I wanted. I am not quite confident about self to try something new with my life….

My point is positive thinkers promote productivity and creativity they support positive relationships. They have the ability for acceptance and tolerance. They know how to strengthen persistence and self discipline.. etc..

Patients have to use medicine and obviously cognitive behavioral therapies  and some strategies focusing on  on here and now, only then  they can someway get to the point of setting a forward looking goals. And with priorities straight way..

Zaira Khan

Authentic self 

Finding your truth and living an authentic life. It sounds hard, just by the sound of it. It sounds like a lot of soul searching and then rigid rules by which to live your life, almost. But the only truly hard part of this is the first step, and it is also the scariest part. And it doesn’t have to be about rigid rules or absolute truths, either.

There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.

Zairakhan