Tag: reality.principle

Psychological space.. 

For psychologists, distance is not just physical space. It is also psychological space, the degree to which you feel closely connected to someone else. You are describing psychological distance when you say that you feel “distant” from your spouse, “out of touch” with your kids’ lives, “worlds apart” from a neighbor’s politics, or “separated” from your employees. You don’t mean that you are physically distant from other people; you mean that you feel psychologically distant from them in some way. You’ve developed different beliefs than your spouse over time and have “grown apart,” your kids’ generation is so different from your own, or you work in a large corporation with more employees than you can name. These two features of social life—the magnitude of the gap between your own mind and others’ minds, and the motivation to reduce that gap—are critical for understanding when you engage your ability to think about other minds fully and when you do not.

Distance keeps your sixth sense disengaged for at least two reasons. First, your ability to understand the minds of others can be triggered by your physical senses. When you’re too far away in physical space, those triggers do not get pulled. Second, your ability to understand the minds of others is also engaged by your cognitive inferences. Too far away in psychological space—too different, too foreign, too other—and those triggers, again, do not get pulled. Understanding how these two triggers—your physical senses and your cognitive inferences—engage you with the mind of another person is essential for understanding the dehumanizing mistakes we can make when we remain disengaged.

Zaira Khan 


Growth of Terrorism 

​Education and Poverty do not adequately explain the growth of Terrorism. While Terrorism through the ages was associated with Political demands, the current Terrorism is strictly Religion based with followers wanting to use religion by injecting it into Politics and the political structure. The demands of this kind of Terrorism is that it impinges and infringes on the Civil and Human Rights of the population and like a Cancer destroys society, taking a heavy toll on innocent lives in the process. The use of Religion as a tool to try and control people, stop their empowerment and use it for Power grab is dangerous. It is dangerous because it acts as an opiate to create illusion and delusion and derail the process of rational thinking.

Zaira Khan 

Positive emotions 

There are certain general practices that can make us happy. I as a psychologist believe that happiness is something that comes from within. 

I usually feel that  people who are thankful for what they have are better able to cope with stressful life events, they have more positive emotions, and are better able to reach their goals. The best way to harness the positive power of gratitude is to keep a gratitude journal or list, where you actively write down exactly what you’re grateful for each day. Doing so has been linked to happier moods, greater optimism and even better physical health. So try for once and always, and feel happy.
Though there are no direct to do things that can make us happy always and all the time but remember that your future depends largely on the thoughts you think today. So each moment of every day is an opportunity to turn your thinking around, thereby helping or hindering your ability to think and feel more positively in the very next moment. Always treat yourself with positive afirmative statements so that you know that you are in this world with some purposes and reasons.
Finally if you start learning to find happiness in small trivial routine things you will remarkably be different from other people, because the inner feeling will come out in your behavior and deeds.Start living a happy life with accurate self esteem, positive affirmations and gratitude. Then all the other positivism will run after you, for sure.



Opening the mind begins with choosing to reach yourself. One perspective is the highest goal of any human being is to radiate the realization of oneness with the Creator. You determine what this means and feels like for you. Each vision matters.

The essence of your being is not the density of your apparent human physicality, but far beyond, as the eternal essences of light. Intuition is experienced as light itself and when functioning to capacity, the world is felt as light and the light bodies of all forms are apparent. Only as fear, belief, negativity, polarity and judgment of perceived limitation dissolve does the truth present clearly as it always is. Fog disperses. You begin to remember and experience dimensions of reality certain conditioning temporarily blocks out. The body is like a vehicle that transports you anywhere now.


Into Context 

One percent of you is the visible light that we can see. We wish to discuss the ninety-nine percent of you that is unseen. You actually have more than 100,000 light bodies. These bodies include your spirit, your emotional body, your mental body, and your etheric body. Just as your physical body is made up of cells, your light bodies are made up of cells too. These cells think, they have their own consciousness and nervous system. Your light bodies can grow. As you’re increasing your vibration you are retaining light, and retaining light makes various light bodies larger and more powerful. A simple expression comes to mind to help you put this non physical you into context. We’re all spiritual beings having a physical experience on Earth; we are not physical beings having a spiritual experience. Put another way, you’re not a physical being generating consciousness. You are consciousness creating your physical being and experiences.

Zaira Khan 


​Only recently have we begun to realize that both the spiritual and psychological aspects of a person need to be explored together. Focusing on one instead of the other does not address the wholeness and entirety of a being. There are many layers to who we are, and what we need to work on is fluid and constantly changing. At times we need to be working on the “ego,” while at other times we need to explore our spiritual connection to ourselves and all that is around us. 

Zaira Khan 


Life isn’t always fair… life is a beautiful chance given to human  beings to make the best of it, to LEARN and to provide others the best  of us.What can be unfair is the attitude and actions of human beings, but we learn from that. If we get hurt by something or someone, there is  always a lesson to get from it: To be stronger, to realize of the good  and bad, to take care of ourselves. The power is always within you , you  have all the strength and the capability to face any difficulty you may  be experiencing, with braveness and positivity, looking forward! You  were born to be happy :), you have unique talents, values, to provide  happiness to others.Loosing hopes is not the solution to difficulties  (no matter how desperate the situation might seem); it is a “coward”  response and a very selfish one, as it could cause so much pain to the  people who love you. Be positive, look forward. Whether it’s  self-preservation, basic human decency, or a combination of both, we  want to change that.

In some cases, we can. We are not powerless, and we don’t have to simply accept every injustice as an unavoidable part of life.
We do, however, need to accept that our response to perceived wrongs affects our ability to right them.
No one has a perfect life. Everyone is battling some kind of hardship.
It’s  also downright disturbing when people who really do have good lives,  overlook all the positives they do have going for them because they are  so focused on what they haven’t got, or what others have, that they  don’t. 
You can’t create positive change from a negative  mindset.  You have to heal your pain before you can set out to heal the  world. Andyou have to stop seeing yourself as a victim if you want to  access your personal power.
Studies have shown that the reward  centers of our brains activate when we recognize fairness—even when it  pertains to someone else. When we witness unfairness, it triggers our  amygdala, the primitive part of the brain that controls fear and anger.
You  also have to come to terms with the reality that even if you do what  you’re supposed to/ need to do, it still doesn’t always follow that  you’re gonna get what you want. Life doesn’t always work that way…it’s  not a meritocracy. People let their disappointment in how things turn  out get the better of them, often, instead of accepting it as something  that just happens, sometimes, despite best intentions. Accepting failure  and disappointment healthily is one of the hardest lessons to learn. I  still struggle with it, and hopefully will get better and better about  it as life goes on. 
This means that when we feel like we’ve been  treated unfairly, we go into “fight or flight” mode, with its resulting  sense of anxiety.
Psychologists suggest that when we fight for  fairness for others, it’s actually self-interest in disguise; meaning  we’ve recognized it provides us with some type of advantage to be fair.
No  matter how you slice it, we experience a strong, instant physical and  biological reaction to perceived injustices, and this can limit our  ability to think rationally and respond proactively. 
A little bit of unjustice in this life and enduring it can only make you  stronger; there’s always an island of love, happiness and joy ahead  even if you’ve got to swim a whole ocean of bitterness and injustice in  order to get there!
 “Life will always be unfair”; and that’s how this life will be if all  you do is keep swimming in circles in the ocean of mainstream human  mentality; it’s up to you to seek in your life those‘islands of  tranquility’ which fill your emotion with confidence and strength; and  those islands are often in the truthful companionship of good friends and loved ones.  Growing older will lead you there, just be careful and don’t give up!
Make a clean corner in your thoughts so that hope finds a place in your heart and let instead bitterness move out.
Once  we mature as individuals it’s up to us to make life better, for our own  and for the future generations as well! Don’t give up!

Zaira Khan