To understand what it means to be self-compassionate, think about what it means to treat another person compassionately, and then turn that same orientation toward oneself. Just as compassion involves a desire to minimize the suffering of others, self-compassion reflects a desire to minimize one’s own suffering and, just as importantly, to avoid creating unnecessary unhappiness and distress for oneself. Self-compassionate people treat themselves in much the same caring, kind and supportive ways that compassionate people treat their friends and family when they are struggling. When they confront life’s problems, self-compassionate people respond with warmth and concern rather than judgment and self-criticism. Whether their problems are the result of their own incompetence, stupidity or lack of self-control, or occur through no fault of their own, self-compassionate people recognize that difficulties are a normal part of life. As a result, they approach their problems with equanimity, neither downplaying the seriousness of their challenges nor being overwhelmed by negative thoughts and feelings.
Self-righteousness can be destructive because it reduces our willingness to cooperate or compromise,creates distance between ourselves and others,and can lead to intolerance or even violence.Feelings of moral superiority may play a role in political discord, social conflict, and important life matters.
I still remember that when I was making myself a practicing psychologist, I was taking up or lets say was ready to take up many challenges to become well known in my profession,as there were tough competitions..Which I am now…. Some years back I had a seminar to present and that was for the psychology students,who were doing masters in clinical psychology and that was a great breakthrough as I was getting chance to address in one of the best institutes of Clinical Psychology. I was fully prepared with my laptop and presentation on endogenous and exogenous factors of migraine in female patients. As I entered the hall took up the dice and mic, started giving brief bio-data of my professional background and major interests of studies. And all of a sudden a young man of armed forces who was studying clinical psychology stood up and asked ARE YOU MARRIED? I without looking at him said I ABSOLUTELY DON’T KNOW?
I still remember I was so embarrassed with my answer that I had to take some deep breaths to focus on the work I was bound to do. but the students clapped for like five minutes. I don’t know why? But I wasn’t married and I could have said so with simple word NO.
Believe me in recalling this first seminar which was appreciated a lot I feel great success but I truly still want to crawl under a rock,that my answer to that invalid and unexpected question was totally nonsense.lol
Well to sum up I want to share this wonderful quotation.
As we move through life, acting and interacting with our environment, various memories are brought to consciousness as a result of sense stimulation – causing us to think, speak and act according to the contents of these memories. We live in a mind, which has been conditioned by the educational system, our beliefs,culture,society, propaganda, friends, family members, and the list expands according to our life’s experiences. While we think and feel like we are in control of our lives, for the most part we operate on automatic based on the contents of our subconscious being shuffled back and forth into the conscious mind by sense stimulation. However, once we begin to practice the experiments of proof, and experience the theory first-hand for ourselves, then the contents become rearranged differently and a clearer or new understanding is revealed.
The contents of the subconscious, combing with the contents of the conscious mind, which “cause” the “effects” we experience in life. Change or rearrange the contents of the subconscious and we perceive and experience life differently. Having the knowledge of what the mind is and how it operates leads to self-reflection..GO TOWARDS SELF REFLECTION IF YOU HAVE ANY CHOICE.
Believing in your own abilities allows you to pursue passions that can inspire others. Once you truly start believing in yourself and focusing on your positive qualities, you’ll be able to pursue your passions and spend time doing what you love. When you allow yourself to be who you are and follow your heart, you will be able to share your passion with the world. The more you believe in yourself, the more you will open up and share with others — and what you share just might be the very inspiration someone else needs.
Finding your truth and living an authentic life. It sounds hard, just by the sound of it. It sounds like a lot of soul searching and then rigid rules by which to live your life, almost. But the only truly hard part of this is the first step, and it is also the scariest part. And it doesn’t have to be about rigid rules or absolute truths, either.
There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.
Both repentance for sin and humility for weakness call us to acknowledge our faults and apologize,but sin requires us to do facing and returning to God while weakness calls for gradual improvement as we learn and grow.In our weakness we cannot do all the things at once.We may need experimentation with different options,practice and improve overtime,build our strengths,actively try even though we don’t always have to succeed,but of-course we have to learn from our errors
Remember we can be weak and still have our heart in the right place with our merciful God.